Countdown to 25: 3!

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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3 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

A cool post by Brown Paper Bag about the 2017 Thesis Exhibition of MFA students from the Maryland Institute College of Art (MICA)… inspiring!!

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Something WRITTEN

Okay, just three days left. Which story would you like first?

Weekend Away to Saugatuck, Michigan

or

“Watch out for the Overturned Jeep.”

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Something MADE

inkguy

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 – 4!

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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4 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

 

From our wedding album contact sheet:

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Something WRITTEN

The wedding was held at a Lutheran Church in St. Charles, Illinois. The officiant was Mitch Gowen, Steve’s brother-in-law. About 70 people attended the service.

The day was freezing for a hot summer day — 59 degrees F.

The reception was held at a beautiful old hotel in Batavia, Illinois. The ballroom had underlit glass tiles for the dance floor.

The bride wore a beautiful pink wedding gown. The groom used a newspaper rubber band to tie his hair back. Christer, who was four, had not had a nap.

The bride’s mother’s feelings had been hurt by the bride the day of the wedding. The bride was later told by her mother that the transgression was a “blessing in disguise” as, otherwise, she might have cried at the ceremony.

Photographs were taken before the catered dinner of chicken and peas (pretty sure).

Highlights include the kiss, the cake, and watching Christer cut up the dance floor in his mini tuxedo.

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Something MADE

Adam and Eve, 2002.

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 – 5!

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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5 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

Denver artist Anne Thulson is a family friend and I love her style so much.

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annethulson

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Something WRITTEN

Only five days left until our anniversary. I think we’re going to make it.

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Something MADE

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Steve’s caption: “I can’t poo and you don’t care.”

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 – #6

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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#6 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

Eugenia Loli.

eugenialoli

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Something WRITTEN

I missed another day, but this time it wasn’t Steve’s fault.

 

(HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!)

Seriously, I feel bad. But today is a new day!

So far in this Countdown we’ve talked about Steve’s bicycle (aka “the other woman”) and throw pillows.

So today we will naturally turn our attention towards Steve’s cooking.

When we first got married we shared the cooking duties. There were several dishes I was pretty adept at making — spaghetti, dried chicken with frozen peas, and Wendy’s to name a few.

The problem was, I never seemed to make enough food. Before I got married, if I cooked, I ate leftovers for days. But after the ceremony, each time I made dinner I watched with dismay tomorrow’s lunch and dinner inhaled by Steve. All of it. And then, “You only cooked ONE chicken?” he would ask incredulously.

Our schedule looked something like this:

Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays: Steve Cooks = Everyone Happy
Tuesdays, Thursdays, Saturdays: Carla Cooks = Everyone Unhappy.

We limped along this way for two years.

Then I got pregnant with Wes, and during the three months of pretty terrible morning sickness, Steve kind of took over the kitchen.

And it’s been that way ever since; Steve has done all the cooking for more than 22 years.

I know.

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Something MADE

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25: #8

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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#8 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

I love this portrait by British painter Emily Ball. She has a great book, too.

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Something WRITTEN

During nap time today:

Steve: We have each other, and that’s pretty good.

 

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Something MADE

I haven’t been making very much lately! 😀 Here’s a doodle from awhile ago.

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 :#9

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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#9 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

I really like these two paintings by Jason Yeomans:

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yeomans1

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Something WRITTEN

I missed a day. This is because Steve and I got into a big fight yesterday, and I spent the first part of the day hiding from him and then the rest of the day fighting and/or licking my wounds.

We have learned that no fight is all one person’s fault, and that in the end there are just things we don’t understand about the other.

For example, Steve doesn’t understand how the female emotional mind works:

Carla’s feelings about (fill in the blank):

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

It’s okay.

IT’S NOT OKAY.

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I don’t understand it either, but on the other hand I understand it perfectly.

I know you know what I mean.

Whenever we fight (less often as we get older, but still), I feel so sad that a whole day was wasted.

But everything is okay now.

It’s okay.

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Something MADE

boygirl

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25: #11

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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#11 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

“Sweet Dog” by Raphael Balme.

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Something WRITTEN

I like to joke that our television is broken because it only plays Star Trek.

Since we live/work, Steve claims that watching tv at night is the only time of the day where he doesn’t think about work.

So almost every night we watch an episode of Star Trek (two if he’s particularly wiped). I watch with him usually, but only one — I have a strict one-episode limit.

I have my own tv peculiarities. As a binge-watcher, I’m known to blow through a whole season in a matter of days. (Then, I’ll “fast” for one or two months before watching another show.)

I realized today with delight that Steve will need to watch Janeway all by his lonesome this weekend. Season 5 of Orange is the New Black is being released tomorrow.

I’m going in.

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Something MADE

Eleven birds.

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 – #12

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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#12 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

I like this illustration by Jan De Kinder:

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Something WRITTEN

Today I had a mammogram and that other fun thing that goes with it and when I got home, Steve thanked me.

That’s the kind of husband he is.

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Something MADE

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 – #13

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format.

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#13 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

I got a book out of the library yesterday by David Sedaris: Theft by Finding: Diaries 1977-2002. He wrote this when he was 29 years old. He writes beautifully and humorously about the absurd moments of life, so I think his last sentence is true!

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Something WRITTEN

So far we’ve talked about Steve’s cycling and cuddly pillows in the form of Me.

But today I would like to talk about ACTUAL pillows — not the sleeping kind but the couch kind.

Steve and I have always liked the idea of pillows, and see them as a way to dress up, fairly inexpensively, the rather thrown-together living rooms we’ve had over the years (think “college apartment” decor).

Currently we have the following five pillows:

 

  1. Two 18″x18″ square pillows, originally purchased for a photo shoot in which I was directed to find bright colors. I didn’t like the designs, so after the shoot I bought some beige linen covers on etsy, hoping to make them more elegant looking. Instead they just are ugly (why do they look so great in the magazines?). I tried to cover them again with white linen covers from Ikea, but they didn’t fit properly and ended up looking cheap. So now I’m back to the beige linen, one of them with gold spots painted on one side (something I tried one day but also hated immediately; it felt “forced”).
  2. One 22″x22″ pillow made from African Kuba cloth. I bought this a few years ago at a garage sale for way too much hoping it would add some drama to the beige-brown motif I had going. It is beautiful but a) also mostly beige-brown, and b) it’s scratchy and really isn’t meant to be touched.
  3. One small round rust-colored pillow made with recycled t-shirts. This I purchased on sale at kind of a hip store here in Seattle. Steve wasn’t sure if it was something cool or something terribly uncool; I assured him it was cool because I had bought it at that particular store. He said okay, but I’ve never seen him use it.
  4. One long pillow (about 13″x36″) from Anthropologie, with fake Moroccan or Indian designs stamped on. It’s pretty but Steve hates how it feels and throws it off the couch whenever he wants to sit down. (It’s on the floor as I write.)

Our pillows don’t seem to stay where they belong and end up all over the place, so at nighttime there is a moment before we sit down to watch tv where each of us is frantically looking for a comfortable pillow.

It’s a mad race for the ugly ones.

If one of the ugly pillows is not on the couch and would require one of us to get up and retrieve it, I usually let Steve have the ugly one and make do with a combination of the remaining three pillows that are within arms reach.

That’s just the kind of wife I am.

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Something MADE

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!

Countdown to 25 – #14

Steve and I will be married 25 years on June 19th. So I’m doing a little countdown here at the blog and will continue the Something FOUNDSomething WRITTEN, and Something MADE format. Here goes!

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#14 Days before the Silver Anniversary

Something FOUND

Love this piece from German artist Ellen Ribbe:

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Something WRITTEN

I think my post yesterday kind of fell flat. I only received two comments. And I think I might have accidentally given the impression that I was unhappy or embarrassed having been referred to as a “comfy pillow” by my 4-year-old grandson.

I should clarify; I consider being called a comfy pillow by Ethan a high honor! And the fact that I am a comfy pillow and Steve is not gains me points in the Grandpa-Grandma competition… Go, Grandma!

When I told Steve just now that about the lonely comments, Steve seemed unsympathetic.

In fact, I think deep-down he was slightly happy it flopped, as he had balked at the word “exercise” in yesterday’s post… the word I used to describe his cycling training. “I don’t exercise,” he said. “I’m an athlete.”

“It works better with my story,” I said as I hit the publish button.

Steve’s cycling has played a large part in our marriage story. I won’t go into the gory details, but let’s just say that as a newlywed I was shocked — SHOCKED! — to find out how many hours one needs to spend on a bicycle if one wants to do well racing.

“It’s just two hours!” Steve would counter when I complained about him being gone all day every Saturday and Sunday.*

No.

This is what a two-hour ride really looks like:

2 hours before the ride:
Tear the house apart looking for shorts, jersey, socks — aka “bike getup” — and put it in the washing machine.

1.5 hour before the ride:
Shower, and shave face, head and legs.

1 hour before the ride:
Put clothes in dryer; Work on bike.

.5 hour before the ride:
Gather water bottles and snacks; get dressed and clomp around in steel shoes all over new bamboo flooring.

The ride:
Two hours.

Immediately after the ride:
Coffee with the guys at Starbucks.

.5 hours after the ride:
Ride home, take off jersey and shoes, open the refrigerator, pull out milk, an apple, some carrots and some yogurt. Open the cupboards, pull out bread and tuna. Wolf everything down.

1 hour after the ride:
Shower, and nap on the couch. (So tired!)

2 hours after the ride:
Wake up (still a little tired from epic ride) and wonder why new wife is upset and starts crying about being abandoned.

Because, aren’t new husbands supposed to want to spend every waking minute with their new wives?

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*He also rode for two hours on Tuesday and Thursday evenings and then 2-3 extra times on the other weekdays.

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Something MADE

wannafight

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Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you tomorrow!